MJ has a post that I think is rather profound, and the comments are all very good. I couldn’t really consolidate all of my thoughts on the subject (and off the subject) into a comment, so I thought I’d write about it here.
First, the post itself talks about how women are psycho because men make them that way. I can see both sides of this argument. It might be true that a man before us made them this way, and now they’re just predisposed to that behavior. I believe that there are non-psycho women, though. They’re usually the ones who haven’t had their heart broken yet, and aren’t guarded beyond repair.
Another point she makes is that if a man lets a woman push, she will push as far as possible. This is an absolute truth. I played the role of wuss in one relationship, and let her push until I couldn’t take it anymore. It’s the reason that I went into my next few relationships looking for a total submissive, and discovered that entire subculture of sin.
The problem that I have with that subculture has nothing to do with the hedonistic sex, but from the simple fact that most of the dominant people refer to their submissive partners as slaves. The word slave implies that the person has zero choice in the matter, which lessens the appeal to me. I’d much rather have a woman choose to “serve.”
So no, readers, despite the occasional BDSM tag at the bottom of a post and the fact that I dated a rich hottie who had an Asian character for “Slave” tattooed on her back, I’m not one of those guys. I did learn something from it, though, and I think that lesson was worth learning.
You can’t be a wuss in a relationship. You also can’t be in total control. Some couples might function fine in these relationships, but not me. There has to be a power exchange in order for me to be happy. I don’t want to be in charge all of the time. I don’t want to be with someone who has no ability to make decisions. I just want balance. (Or maybe something close to balance, with me being just a little more dominant than her.)